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Aug 13, 2019 21:33:53

Why comparing yourself with others? Part 2

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This post is the second part of "Why comparing yourself with others?" I wrote yesterday. 

I wrote there was one of the hypothese that the feeling of superiority would be related to the habit of thoughts. There might be the difference between those who compare and those who do not in spite of more or less the same capability.

Brains do not like something unclear

One of the characteristics in our brain is that the brain does not like something ambiguous and prefer something clearer. More vivid, bigger, and clearer. In our world, almost everything is incentivized in a way to stimulate someone's brains.

Our brains cannot keep something unclear and if it stays, they start to make it clearer. Or, they would avoid it and make it unseen. 

According to Dilts Pyramid, when we compare ourselves with others, we compare one of the followings: capabilities, behaviors, environment

They are the three bottom layes, which are more clearer from outside. The lower layers is constrainted by the upper layers. However, the upper layers such as purpose, identity, beliefs are invisible or hidden in most of the cases. 

More likely, those who compare themselves with others tend to compare by those clearer and visible factors since these are only the ones they can use for comparison. Then, this ends up with comparing what others can do (capability), how they look like (behavior), and what title and income they earn in which company (environment). 




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