I like to follow books to the letter.
I like to trust the process and then judge it.
I like to do this because it's often tempting to skip stuff or think that I know it. And by repeating that with book after book, course after course, learning after learning, I develop a massive effing blind spot.
I did a few exercises around my associations around money.
The first exercise was around what do you think is good, bad, or ok about money. Here's the trick: I disengaged my logical adult self and got the inner 10 year old to answer. And holy heck did she answer. Just. Wow.
I wrote that having the best was a good thing
I wrote that saying "I can't afford it" was a bad thing
I wrote that cheering yourself up was an OK thing
If you look at these with a very adult perspective you can argue that it's actually not that bad. Yes there's a healthy way to look at it. But there's also an unhealthy way to look at it. And this is shortcut, 10-year-old logic. You can't rely on this stuff when you're feeling stressed, tired, and overwhelmed. Which is usually when one makes poor decisions.
It was...an eye-opening thing to see.
The second exercise was to imagine money as a person you were in a relationship with and describe that relationship. Also. Wow.
My favourite 3 lines:
we mistreat one another
we have no boundaries
we don't have good times together
I wrote seriously holy fuck at the bottom of the page.
The third exercise was to write my money values. Values is a really airy fairy word so I just went with money messages. I wrote honestly.
It was tragic to look at. I can see why I've had so much trouble. There is so much incongruity between the messages.
Here's the cool thing about this exercise. Some of the them, I'll just have to watch out for, but others could be really beautifully reframed.
I can do what I want when I want.
And what I want is financial independence.
If it's important enough, I'll figure it out later.
I rewrote this as:
If it's important enough, it's worth waiting for. I value the freedom and lightheartedness that comes from being resourceful with what I've got.
I have work to do. That's clear.
But so do you. Next time someone gives you an activity or an exercise to do, just do it. Trust the process. Judge after.
If this had been a useless exercise then I would have, at least, gotten better at introspection and critical thinking. And I would also be justified in saying, "this isn't relevant to me."