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Apr 15, 2019 09:28:33

"What's wrong with me?"

by @haideralmosawi PATRON | 341 words | 15🔥 | 69💌

Haider Al-Mosawi

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I can't stress enough on the importance of how we communicate to ourselves, because that's what our mental attitude and impression of ourselves is made of. This includes the questions we ask ourselves.

One such troublesome example is the question: "What's wrong with me?"

It's insanely common, and I remember a day when I was a child that I asked myself this question because I was especially clumsy that day, and I ended up dropping a dish my uncle had brought to our house. The pattern of clumsiness had led me to ask this question, because the only possibility I saw was that the problem is me.

The question implies there's something wrong with me. I just have to figure out what that is. But the assumption is wrong, to begin with. 

It's likely not something wrong with me, but something wrong with my approach, mentally or physically. I might not be mindful enough or too impatient to do things properly. 

Many of those who ask themselves this question compare their inside to somebody else's outside. In other words, they compare their feelings and struggles to people's actions and struggles. They compare the agony they're going through writing a book to seeing a published author doing a book tour, and so they ask themselves: "What's wrong with me?" Why can't I be like THAT?

The truth is: most successful people have gone through the same struggles we're going through. These struggles are common. Experiencing them isn't wrong. There are no intrinsic defects that stop us from achieving what we want to achieve.

Rather than assume there's something wrong in our being, we should plan to improve the way we think, give space to listen and understand and express our feelings, and change our actions.

There may still be a struggle, but that's part of the process. It's not wrong. That's how it's supposed to be.

Smile. Embrace the challenge. And keep going.

There's nothing wrong with you, and you're capable of so much more than what you give yourself credit for.

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    @haideralmosawi Well said. I will have some feedback for you on the ebook in the next day or two.

    Brandon Wilson avatar Brandon Wilson | Apr 15, 2019 05:50:09
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      @brandonwilson Thaaaaanks! And hope you had a wonderful trip. :D

      Haider Al-Mosawi avatar Haider Al-Mosawi | Apr 15, 2019 18:18:34
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