Once you understand you have to be responsible for your own happiness, you start becoming an adept of self-development. There is no growth without self-love: you need me time to perform this introspective work. If you don't have time to listen to yourself, you won't be able to open yourself up to the possibilities the world has to offer.
The problem is that the road to the top is a psychological war: consistency is both the goal and the reward, which is why habits should always prevail over plans.
After writing about my new daily routine, I quickly realized I wouldn't follow it per see. I can't stick to a schedule, it's just not in my nature. What happened, however, is that I naturally developed a series of micro-habits over time. I call them my Holy Heptad, seven micro-habits I perform on a daily basis: workout, mass gain diet, meditation, reading, writing, coding, and stretching.
Completing the heptad is my most important goal of the day. The particularity here is that instead of telling myself I have to follow a particular program, I just listen to my body. I have a tiny quantitative goal for each habit, but I don't count until it starts hurting. One series of push-ups, one series of squats, and one series of resistance band bicep curls. Three meals a day (I tend to skip meals, so just having more meals per day will naturally increase my weight). 10 minutes of meditation. Reading till I complete a 200-word note or till I'm bored. Writing 200 words a day. Pushing at least one commit to the code base. One full-body stretching session.
Once I'm done with the heptad, I can focus my attention on what's urgent, the daily grind. That's where I put in the extra work, not the other way around.
I can also give myself permission to go out and unwind without feeling bad about it. On the opposite side, failing to complete the heptad is a visual mark telling me I didn't seize the day. I have a piece of paper glued to the wall in front of my desk where each habit is represented by a column and each row is a given day. The resulting cells are left blank if I failed to deliver, or crossed if I showed up.
Over the last two weeks, my different streaks are visually denser. Writing and coding are the two chains I'm clearly consistent with, but I still have room for improvement in the other areas. Curious to see what the data will look like in a few months.