Don’t try to be anything. By that I mean, don’t try to force your will upon your life. Pursue what is meaningful to you, without expectations, and you will blossom eventually. Let go of your goals and expectations about the future. It hinders you from figuring out where you want to be, and what you like doing. It’s going through life with a blindfold on because you focus on nothing else then what you believe will be the answer, instead of being open for one to present itself.
In the words of Bruce Lee;
"Point your finger to the moon, but don’t concentrate on the finger, or you will miss all that heavenly glowing”
Don’t push, don’t pull. Life is not a fight, as we all unconsciously believe. It is about seeing what happens. You can still hope for the best, but don’t expect it, because if you do, you will never achieve any form of satisfaction. How can I say something like that? Well, the anticipation of fulfilling something is always greater, then actually achieving it. Getting it feels good for a few minutes, maybe days, but then it fades, and you want something new. See it for what it is, for the pursuit of happiness it is not where you will find what you are looking for.