There are things I want to improve on, that require no hesitation on my end to want to improve. This doesn't mean these things are easy to achieve. It's just that it's a no-brainer, a simple goal to go for.
There are things I do not want to improve on. Which I don't value. But people in my life think it important for me to. These are things that confuse me in the head.
Do I have the wrong people in my life? Have I fallen into the trap of choosing toxic friends who want to bend me into a shape that fits their values without regard to mine? Or am I actually just too scared to change? Or too stubborn?
With the dead simple obvious improvements the hard part is not agreeing to strive for progress. The hard part is habit-formation. Implementation.
But life can't be so easy I think. There are these things that the people in our lives want us to improve, but we don't. We see it as an annoyance that just gets in the way.
The question at that point is whether you trust your self or them. At this point in your life, given the amount you've accomplished and impact you've made, and the overall progress made, can you trust yourself?
Even though it pains me to, I'm going to for the next period of my life trust 'them'. Even though it goes against everything my gut says I'm going to let 'them' have veto me. Not because 'they' are more accomplished or are so much better than me. 'they' are actually on equal grounds as me.
No. In this case I trust 'they' because I don't trust myself. And also I don't trust somebody who so boldly trusts themselves, especially when it comes at the expense of holding fingers inside his ears whenever somebody speaks.
In this case I will trust 'them' because I trust in the power of an outside perspective. I trust the validity of a stone cold outside assessment. I don't trust the validity of self-assessment.