Lately I have wondered about how difficult it is to make friends past a certain age.
Sir Abe says the secret is being admirable. I wish it were that simple.
I find some people are able to make friends very easily.
They are extremely emotionally intelligent.
Their composure is stable and predictable.
Many are funny. People gravitate around funny people.
And they are easy to trust.
That is key for me. I tend to stay away from people I don't trust.
I do not feel like I have a problem making friends. But I struggle to do what is needed to keep it going.
Is phone conversation a requirement?
Cause I fail at that with distinction.
Is proximity a requirement?
Cause being an immigrant, a lot of your friends may either move away or you were the one that moved.
Is having similar economic standing a requirement?
Cause I really don't care about that and I hate to think in those terms.
Is being the same sex a requirement?
Cause I get along with men.
Friendship in Ethiopia seems so different from friendships in America.
I am still learning the American one.