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Mar 15, 2019 18:35:32

Sacrifice

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verb:
to surrender or give up, or permit injury or disadvantage to, for the sake of something else.


A friend once told me that sacrifice is a dangerous thing in a relationship.
Any type of relationship.

If one party feels like they are doing more for the relationship than the other, then things were heading in a bad direction. 

 He explained that he had been on the receiving end of arguments where he was reminded of how much sacrifice was being made for him. And he hated it.
It just brought on feelings of guilt and inadequacy. And pressure.
I could see the pain in my friends eyes just from the memory of what he was saying. 

It has been years since that chat. I have since keenly observed people's relationships - between friends, siblings, spouses and even business partners. I am always trying to see if there is a healthy balance of sacrifices made.   

I understand that most relationships are built on give and take. Some of us are more comfortable giving than taking.

But what if my friend was right?

What if the secret to a good relationship is consciously suppressing the urge for a dramatic sacrifice?

 




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    @keni Sigh. I kinda think it behoves on the other party to see and appreciate sacrifices with good conscience not to be seen as pressure pump. Cos i don't think there's ever a balance to it. One person is always giving more than the other at every point in time.

    Seun Oyebode avatar Seun Oyebode | Mar 16, 2019 03:14:16
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      @seunoyebode - I am not 100% sure about this either but I have not been able to forget what my friend said. But yeah one person is always giving more.

      Keni avatar Keni | Mar 17, 2019 20:47:58
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