Definition from Dictionary.com
to surrender or give up, or permit injury or disadvantage to, for the sake of something else.
A friend once told me that sacrifice is a dangerous thing in a relationship.
Any type of relationship.
If one party feels like they are doing more for the relationship than the other, then things were heading in a bad direction.
He explained that he had been on the receiving end of arguments where he was reminded of how much sacrifice was being made for him. And he hated it.
It just brought on feelings of guilt and inadequacy. And pressure.
I could see the pain in my friends eyes just from the memory of what he was saying.
It has been years since that chat. I have since keenly observed people's relationships - between friends, siblings, spouses and even business partners. I am always trying to see if there is a healthy balance of sacrifices made.
I understand that most relationships are built on give and take. Some of us are more comfortable giving than taking.
But what if my friend was right?
What if the secret to a good relationship is consciously suppressing the urge for a dramatic sacrifice?