Over the course of my life, I've developed a natural habit to assume and prepare for the worst. I'm a generally optimistic person but I "like" to prepare myself for the worst possible outcomes. Which inevitably leads to bouts of anxiety about those outcomes and thinking of how I can deal with it. Most times the reality isn't that bad, but I feel relieved that I was prepared.
It's a coping mechanism and I'm not sure where it originates. But it's helped me in the few cases where my worst fears turned out to be true. It's also caused me a ton of unnecessary stress and anxiety. It's made me face emotional turmoil only for nothing bad to happen.
I know it's not the best but I'm not sure what's the alternative. Do you assume the best and then let yourself be shocked by a negative outcome? I've been reexamining a lot of my ingrained behaviours and this one seems particularly worthy of it. It's become a reflex action for me in any situation where the outcome is out of my control. As with many things I'm not sure what the answer is, but there must be a better solution. I'd like to not stress myself out but I also feel a strong need to protect myself. Maybe asking questions about it will help me find the source.
So how do you deal with situations out of your control?