"That’s awesome you’re teaching them growth mindsets early on! Super important and I think relatively new in pedagogy.
Wish there was more emphasis on that when I was a kid but I turned out all right anyway. Kids are resilient like that"
This made me think of some parenting and life lessons I learned from me mum. She had me at 23, turned single mum of two at 35, went to college at ~40 and still graduated before me.
She's a badass 👇
You have to Live with your kids. Don't treat them as something special. Include them in your life. Kids want to help. Let them.
Yes even if it makes the chore take twice as long. It helps them learn.
Teach your kids independence. The earlier you start, the sooner you stop being their slave.
Oh you want a glass of water? What you asking me for, you know where we keep the glasses and how to turn on the faucet.
Bring me a glass while you're at it. I'm thirsty too.
By 10 years old I was "cooking lunch" for the family because I was home first. Sure I just turned on the stove because she prepped everything in advance but it made me feel badass. I CAN COOK I AM THE LORD AND MASTER BOW BEFORE ME MORTALS!
It also made me fat because I'd scavenge lunch for myself after school then eat another lunch when everyone came home.
On entitlement: "It's easy to shit when your butt is full"
Meaning it's easy to be a smartass when somebody else pays the bills, fills the fridge, and buys your clothes.
Applies to adults too. Don't be the guy who says poor people make poor choices. They're doing their best.
On depression and motivation: "Reality doesn't give a shit how you feel. You either feed the kids or the kids are hungry"
Your kids deserve privacy.
Don't be that parent who reads their texts, their diaries, or barges into their room. Ask.
If they trust you, they'll say yes (until they're teenagers). If they don't then you should fucking work on that.
Respect goes both ways. Treat your kids with respect and they'll treat you with respect.
This can break down a little in adolescence but it comes back.
Give your kids the space to roam. Both physically and mentally.
Support them in all they do but don't tell them what to do. Provide boundaries and within boundaries let them free. Pretend you don't always notice or care when they go out of bounds. Their responsibility might surprise you.