Jan 15, 2019 04:54:03

On daily affirmations.

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You are the story you are constantly telling yourself.

Obviously your real-life experiences have a strong deterministic role in the kind of story you are repeating in your head. But often, your narrative is jarred by judgement and a negativity bias.

It is not your fault. Itโ€™s just our evolutionary dynamics kicking in and forcing our mind to remember the remote possibilities of โ€œdangerโ€ and take our focus there.

But this tends to end up creating a living misery called your โ€œdaily lifeโ€.

Your prediction engine aka the brain loves to believe it can successfully infer the future on your behalf โ€” in realty it truly cannot.

No one can conclusively predict the future. The future is not promised nor is it 100% linear from the lens of the past. Half the time, we suffer through our day because of the โ€œstern storyโ€ we are telling ourselves about our own own possibilities. David Cancel calls these limiting beliefs. (s/o Seeking Wisdom podcast)

These beliefs are powerful in that they shape behavior which ultimately produces results. Thereby, this becomes an endless loop. Identity -> Behaviors -> Results -> Identity

Letโ€™s take an example of someone who believes: โ€œI am the type of person who is clumsy and disorganized and hence I could never get better.โ€ This is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Thereโ€™s no help here unless you choose to rewire your beliefs and start with a new affirmation that you are the type of person who is organized. Your behaviors and habits will follow your beliefs.

To counter-act this negativity bias, a lot of writers in habit science suggest using a simple method: Create and repeat a set of daily affirmations.

Hereโ€™s a couple affirmations I created recently for example:

โ€œI believe

I am the type of person who

sticks to the task at hand and doesnโ€™t get distracted or discouraged. โ€

โ€œI believe

I am the type of person who

makes concrete decisions without deferring or delaying them

in the fear or being right or wrong. โ€œ

What are your thoughts on this topic? What has worked for you? How do you pull yourself out of limiting beliefs and form better habits? Share your comments/opinions below.

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    @kp Instead of countering negativity biases through self-talk and affrimations, what worked for me is that I run head-on into it, but with as much mindfulness and self-awareness as I can give. Acting it out but with mindful observations of its effects on me, others and the world, I find the learning becomes less intellectual/cognitive, more visceral, experiential and goes deeper. But YMMV! And defo not advisable for some situations (eg drugs, or deep trauma).

    Jason Leow avatar Jason Leow | Jan 15, 2019 12:27:44
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      @kp
      Woow... I love what you wrote @jasonleow
      I just wanted to write smt similar, only Im not as well worded so it would be much more clumsy... hihihi

      Lucjah avatar Lucjah | Jan 26, 2019 20:14:08
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      @lucjah thanks! Hihihi too ๐Ÿ˜Š

      Jason Leow avatar Jason Leow | Jan 27, 2019 10:43:53
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