Another weekend is coming, another weekend for kids. This weekend, my kid's favourite cousin is coming back to play with him again. My brother has their kids around the same time as mine, so both of our kids are like 1~2 weeks different. Both elders kids are quite close now, although they meet like once or twice a month.
You can imagine when four boys play around, how messy the situation is. The two big kids have grown up now; both are five years old, have their own strong emotion. This moment might be playing with some silly game and laugh together, the next moment one are crying because losing some competition to the other. It happens every time they meet.
If making some comparison, I m proud for my big kid, although most of the time he goes out of control when playing with his cousin. He loves eating, almost everything he can taste it like really yummy, as long as there is food, his focus is on food. My wife and I saw so many kids out there that need to have an iPhone or iPad to get them to focus eating, but our kids will just busy talking to us and once the food on the table, they just busy eating.
He clean & sort out the toys after playing, the cousin seldom clean up and my younger kid still quite small, so the big kid responsible keep the toys most of the time. Although sometime he will mumble how come he is always the one clean up.
He loves to watch tv and play some simple game on iPad, but he knows the house rules that he can only do these during weekends, he will try this luck on weekdays sometime, but most of the time is a strict "No", he will take it without throwing a temper.
Compare to the cousin, which can't always sit appropriately for food, don't like to clean up the toys after playing and always want to get things in this way. I m proud of my kids.
One more thing is my big kid is very negotiable. Just like most of the kids, sometime when things not going his way, he will get frustrate and throw a temper. There are always two ways to go; reasoning with him is one way where he accepts it with moody or crying because he knows he is wrong. Or we offer some alternative, and he will gladly take it.
For example, we went to a new restaurant last night which have kids playing zone, after he and the small kids played for a while and went back to our table for dinner. Before our dinner end, lots of kids are playing in the playing zone and is kind of messy there. We decided to go home without playing for another round, but promise him for coming again. He start with moody and gladly accept the offer and want to bring his favourite cousin here.
I m appreciate and think that our effort work for spending time with him, it makes him more appreciate things around him and enjoy life from the little things.