(zazen streak day 8th)
Passive aggressive behaviour is when someone says or does something that on the face of it seems innocuous, or even kind, but there is a “hidden” agenda that is negative. It is aggressive behaviour that wears the mask of being passive.
It is important to understand that the person who is being passive aggressive is usually driven by subconscious forces to do so; they are unaware in their conscious mind of the true implications of what they are doing.
In relationships, passive aggressive behaviours are often used to avoid the direct confrontation of short-term conflict, but in the long-term, these dynamics can be even more destructive to marriage than outright aggression.
Dealing with people who exhibit passive-aggressive behaviour is easily one of the most challenging aspects of our social lives. As a behaviour, it manifests in many different ways — some of them quite backhanded and subtle — which can make it difficult to recognise. Simply put, passive-aggressiveness is a way of expressing hostility, albeit through typically muted, seemingly apathetic, and indirect channels of negative behaviour.
Passive aggressive personality disorder was once a diagnosis given to individuals who displayed anger and aggression through resistance rather than openly displaying their displeasure.