Since I was expected to become a dad, I started to think of more how we can raise a kid who has survival capability so that he can learn the environment with curiosity and a fun and adapt to it.
One tweet by another father who watched his daughter's good behaviour was intriguing for me in this context.
One day, I saw my daughter was interested in vacuum and started to clean the room. I was about saying "good girl" or "good effort" since this is good to learn. However, I stopped myself saying that. She was just curious and immitate adults. If we give her admiration, she might stop doing it and lose her curiosity in cleaning without admiration from us.
The key here is instrinsic motivation and extrinsic motivation.
- Instrinsic motivation
people do something because they want to do it for itself based on their curiosity or interest, not for other reasons.
Three component for instrinsic motivation:
- Extrinsic motivation
In contrast to intrinsic motivation, people do something because they want do it for other reasons. The effect is short-term but easy to be triggered by rewards or penaty.
When I was a child, I was never told to "do study" and let me do what I was interested most of the time, which I have really appreciated to my parents, and I would like to do the same for my kid.