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Jun 14, 2019 08:28:50

I don't need people

by @keni PATRON | 200 words | 321🔥 | 325💌

Keni

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Someone close once said to me. 

I am just fine by myself. I like my own company and unlike most people - I do not feel lonely. 

I call BS on anyone that says that and is not a psychopath. 

I think being alone - by choice or circumstance - has a deep negative impact. 
I have observed people.... before and after they were secluded from exposure to other people. They all seem to share some common traits.

Often new parents - who neither have the time or the energy to socialize - have a distinct deterioration of social skills. 

Immigrants or people who are new to a place and don't have a lot of friends and people to talk to routinely.

Nerds or people that spend more time either on games or indoors - with other non-living things. 

Retired/older people who society unfortunately isolates and doesn't give a chance to socialize like before. 

In general, people whose circumstance or sometimes ego doesn't enable a constant back and forth with another human being is dying a little everyday

Next time someone tells you - I don't need people - know that it is a cry for a hug.

Please give them one - and give them your time. 


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    @keni

    haha i went through a phase similar to this person. At the time I was not happy with myself so I said I didn't want to share myself with others. So I said I didn't need others. But the irony was, my plan was to become a better me and then return to others. However, it's near impossible to get better on your own. Others are a fuel required to get you to a better you.

    Abe avatar Abe | Jun 14, 2019 22:38:38
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      @abrahamKim - True statement. I think we deteriorate in a lot of ways when we are isolated. That is the worst punishment to any human being.

      Keni avatar Keni | Jun 14, 2019 16:54:37
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    @keni Yeah right.

    Seun Oyebode avatar Seun Oyebode | Jun 14, 2019 21:28:11
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      @seunoyebode - Thank you Seun.

      Keni avatar Keni | Jun 14, 2019 16:53:19
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    @keni I wonder does a psychopath know that he or she is a psychopath? I don't say that I don't need people, but I am also someone who is very much comfortable being alone. This does not equate to being lonely for me.

    Brandon Wilson avatar Brandon Wilson | Jun 14, 2019 12:35:36
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      @brandonwilson - :) Lol... You are not a psychopath.
      You get your hugs via writing. Trust me - Hugs are more delicious.

      Keni avatar Keni | Jun 14, 2019 16:53:06
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    @keni -- great post. Next time I think I don't need people, I'm going to ask for a hug instead. Over the years, I've learned from dogs. If you want attention, just go sit next to somebody and don't say anything. There's a lot of communication happening when you just sit by somebody and don't look at them like you're needing anything other than to just be near somebody.

    Brian Ball avatar Brian Ball | Jun 14, 2019 08:27:19
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      @brianball - I like that Brian. I tend to do that.. I actually just touch people. I like to hold hands - it can be my sister, bro or friend. A touch says almost the same thing as sitting silent next to them or a hug.
      Dogs are the best at communicating affection. A lot humans could learn from them.

      Keni avatar Keni | Jun 14, 2019 16:51:32
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    @keni That's me. Actually, when I say "I don't need ..", I really care about it.

    5plus6 avatar 5plus6 | Jun 14, 2019 23:27:14
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      @5plus6 - Try demanding for a hug and see how that changes your energy.

      Keni avatar Keni | Jun 14, 2019 16:49:33
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      @keni Whenever I said so, no one has ever questioned me, maybe they think I was tough and strong to be alone. If I don't admit "I need .." and ask for help at first, no one could help me.

      5plus6 avatar 5plus6 | Jun 15, 2019 10:28:44
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      @5plus6 - Ask. Always ask. There is enough research indicating that we should feel free to ask.

      Please watch this -
      https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability?language=en

      Keni avatar Keni | Jun 18, 2019 19:47:30
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