There is not a person I know who has zero problems, and for those who act like they've got it all figured it out are fake. What do you do then now with all your struggles which will not cease until you die? They will just be replaced by something else; so what do you do?
The first thing is to know that everyone has some problems to deal with, so acting like your issues are the only one that matter is really self-centered. Do not even try to play victim. It is a ticket to being in the pity party, and you guilttrip people in the process.
The second one is, do something about it or do nothing at all. If there is something you can do to fix it, do it.
Fac si facis. Do what you are going to do. (Shoutout to Ryan Holiday. I've learned this from you.)
If you cannot do anything else to fix it, do nothing. Accept it. It is true that life gives us the capacity to choose, but some circumstances give us limited options which only include accepting the card we've been dealt with.
Now here comes the third part: Take responsibility where you want to steer your life.
Dan Lok, a multi-millionaire businessman, was once an immigrant in Canada who spoke no English and knew nobody. He awfully failed at 13 businesses, before having his big break. So, what's your excuse?
Steve Jobs got fired from his very own company. Jack Ma always got rejected for the jobs he applied for. Theodoore Roosevelt came from a privileged family but was sickly and skinny as a young boy. He didn't let it stop him from taking responsibility to improve his body. Malcolm X was imprisoned for 20 years. He spent those two decades learning what he could learn as much as possible from the books he had read in jail.
You don't need to be the next Steve Jobs or any of these people — but you can be the best version of yourself too.
When everyone else is busy putting the blame on who did what, you can use that energy working on yourself. You won't get this on first try. In fact, you will fail a lot of times, before you get yourself out of the rut you are in. The right attitude is simply to start. Once the momentum kicks in, you will see yourself doing things you thought you could never do.
Struggles are part of life. This is so cliché, so you must be already prepared when things do not go your way, when bastards blame you for problems they have caused, and when the unexpected happens. Certainly, you will still feel angry or think that the world is unfair, but do not let it get to you. At times like this, trust yourself you can get through it.
I personally know someone who has two kids with this guy, then they broke up. She tried saving it, cried over it and looked like a complete worthless person over this man. That was a heart-wrenching struggle to witness. If that happened to me, I would probably be depressed, since I take relationship seriously that when it ends, I feel like half of me has died.
But what happened now to this woman? She survived the pain and is now living a better life.
You can too! Whatever you are dealing with, trust that you can use this obstacle to strengthen you. In other words, use the pain to lay the foundation for a better you.
Need some help with how you can be a better person?
Meditate for 5 minutes a day
Set your daily routine and follow through
Call your family and friends regularly
Hang out with like-minded people/successful people/happy people
Sleep 6-8 hrs. a day
Live more in the present
Don't take people for granted
Read non-fiction books
And the list can go on and on.
It's only a matter of if you're willing to do so, and remember when life hits you hard ㅡ this too shall pass.