This text is from a website, but I have not "copy paste"ed it! I rewrote it "manually" and edited it a bit, to make it more about grief and loss in general and not just grief connected with death.
64 things about grief I wish someone had told me (snippets):
- Stop avoiding and be present!
- Dying is not like you see in the movies. It does not happen peacefully, or according to a plan. You may not have a spiritual or meaningful moment. It is too real.
- There will be pressure from others to move on, even minutes or hours after a death/loss, and this can lead to regrets. (I must admit that I have an idea what it might be about, but I don’t understand it literally.)
- Death and grief make people uncomfortable, so be prepared for awkward encounters.
- When people offer support, take them on it.
- People will bring you food because they don’t know what else to do. Don’t feel bad throwing it away.
- People will say stupid, hurtful things without even realising that.
Death brings out the best and the worst in families, be prepared.
People will tell you things about your grief that are not true.
(to be continued)