It's easy to tell somebody to take the focus off themselves and their worries. Just have them focus on something they are grateful for.
I'm grateful for having a respectful son and loving wife. I'm grateful to have support parents and food to eat. Etc. Etc.
However, let's ask a question that forces us to act differently. Possibly.
Who's grateful for me?
Now, I can't answer so quickly. I do serve people, but is anybody sending me signs of appreciation or am I living in my own little bubble of self-servingness.
If I want to figure out who's grateful for me, I'll have to do something worthy of being grateful for first.
Developing a service-oriented mind is what I'm talking about. Pick something that triggers you to help other people without direct compensation. Let the practice, both in terms of your improvement and a repetitive task, be something you value.
A habit has three parts. A trigger - something that reminds us to take action. The action - the thing we want the habit of. Writing 200 words each day and posting them on this site is a clear example. And thirdly, a reward. A positive feeling, an incentive to which we strive.
My new habit, beginning today, is a Habit of Service. Stay tuned and I'll share what I learn along the way.