I do like to mix my metaphors!
@yaki The emotional roller coaster ride certainly is tiring.
My thoughts on this are evolving almost daily on this, though - even as I was writing. I started off thinking I was writing about having "stepped off" the roller coaster, and it is true that I don't have those moments of extreme euphoria followed by extreme lows (the first is always quicker to come and go than the second!) any more.
But since I do still feel intense emotions, I like to think of the positive side of the ride, knowing that I can step off and recover quickly.
Like watching a very emotive film, like Hotel Rwanda or The King's Speech - I was masochistic enough to watch these back to back one weekend and it was completely draining! But the films are so worth watching and while they are based on real facts, you have no personal attachment beyond empathy and sympathy, so you can move on.
It's harder in real life, but I think I have learnt to do so (time and a new challenge will tell!)
Some people see the sun rising every day as the same sun, rising on the same problems. But my friend's reaction to that was that she is the opposite - every day is a new day, the sun shines on a new beginning.
The analogy she uses is turning the page. When something painful happens, she gets it out in the open, usually writing. Then she can look at it more objectively and literally turn the page. It allows her to move on quickly.
I used to think that was a cold approach to life. But I know that I also harboured guilt about moving on and a desire to keep the old feeling that once made me so happy. Not to mention a victim mentality. None of which is helpful!
So now I see it as neither being "untrue" to yourself and/or the other person/people, nor anything other than a healthy way to live, in the present moment, prepared for the next moment, the next day, the next opportunity that we have the immense fortune to be given.
As long as we are open to it and ready to unpack its gifts, which are often hidden in unusual places or packages.