As we grow older, we tend to prioritize our romantic relationships, kids, and family over our friends. This makes sense - we have clearly defined commitments to our spouses, our children and our close family. But our friends? There is a mutual understanding that life gets in the way. We understand that our friends are busy building their lives; having a family, advancing in their career, or taking care of parents.
Julie Beck touches on these points in an article she wrote for The Atlantic. When you think about it, it's actually quite sad.
Friendships are unique relationships because unlike family relationships, we choose to enter into them.
Yet we also choose to stop nurturing them as our lives get busier.
This subject resonates with me for a few reasons. Firstly, several of my friends are in the process of moving to another city, while some have already moved. I have been thinking about how this will affect our friendship. Perhaps more importantly, I have been thinking about how my friendship with those who have already moved has changed.
While I do agree that many of us will place our focus on partners and family as we get older, I think we can do better than abandoning the important bonds we've formed with our closest friends. I'll call this introductory post part one of several on this idea. I'd like to go over some ways we can maintain friendships despite the many obstacles that life throws at us.