The customers at my first job at Kmart complained about me not being friendly.
I had school and 2 jobs at that time so I had no appetite for smiling at customers. Apparently it showed.
But I couldn't afford to lose the job. Not yet.
I decided to give this fake enthusiasm a try.
I began watching the other employees to learn from them. There was one particular lady who always smiling. She was bubbling with energy at any time of the day.
One night when both of us were at a break, we started chatting. I realized that she was a genuinely nice person.
Suddenly she asked me - Why are you so sad?
That question took me by surprise.
I didn't think I was so obviously sad... Was I?
I couldn't answer her question.
Instead, I asked her - Why are you so happy?
She answered without hesitation. - Because I am divorced.
Coming from a place where divorce was taboo and rarely publicly admitted, I was surprised to hear that. I have never forgotten those words. I remember being a little scared of marriage if divorce can have such a profound effect on happiness.
Oh America - I have so much to learn.