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Apr 25, 2019 18:00:05

Being Uncool

by @keenencharles | 251 words | 34🔥 | 272💌

Keenen Charles

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There's a natural tendency many of us have to be cool. Not in the high school popular kid way but in a more literal sense of the word. Calm, collected, "chill". It's a nice compliment to get. You're chill. In some ways, it says a lot of positives about you. Your external image doesn't appear to be too bothered by things. You seem to handle things well. You're in control.

But it's often a facade. At least for me. Or only an external image that I subconsciously project. In many cases, I'm the exact opposite of these descriptions but no one seems to think so. Which makes me wonder is it better to appear cool or to be as visibly uncool as you really are?

Self-control is important. Being able to hide your emotions from the world is useful as well. In high-pressure situations, you want to appear calm. In situations where you're being angered, not showing it is sometimes best.

But it brings me back to a topic I've written a lot about recently. And that's honesty. How much honesty is best? What if in this reasonable quest to project a calm image you've accidentally taken it too far? What if so few people can tell how you really feel that no one seems to really know you? Do you dial back the coolness and be more honest?

I'm not sure what's the answer. But lately, I've been leaning towards being more honest. I'd rather be uncool than too cool.

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    @keenencharles I would personally err on the side of honesty and authenticity (https://200wordsaday.com/words/you-do-you-scotty-p-138755ca35db51825d). Most people can generally see through the facade, though they may very well be projecting one themselves.

    Jeff Riddall avatar Jeff Riddall | Apr 26, 2019 09:36:03
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      @Rawhead you make a lot of good points in your post. Personal branding is something I've definitely struggled with. I've wondered if you should show different sides of yourself in different places. But your approach seems to be best for making real connections and your own wellbeing.

      Keenen Charles avatar Keenen Charles | Apr 26, 2019 11:29:49
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    @keenencharles

    Quote from Snowball the book from reference from blog article https://fs.blog/2016/08/the-inner-scorecard/

    Lookit. Would you rather be the world’s greatest lover, but have everyone think you’re the world’s worst lover? Or would you rather be the world’s worst lover but have everyone think you’re the world’s greatest lover? Now, that’s an interesting question. “Here’s another one. If the world couldn’t see your results, would you rather be thought of as the world’s greatest investor but in reality have the world’s worst record? Or be thought of as the world’s worst investor when you were actually the best?

    Abe avatar Abe | Apr 26, 2019 14:19:30
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      @abrahamKim great quote. I think that internal scorecard is so important to have and prioritise but as with anything, it's a challenge. Especially to be aware of your own motivations and know if it's for internal or external benefits.

      Keenen Charles avatar Keenen Charles | Apr 26, 2019 06:28:21
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