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May 20, 2019 12:50:18

You don't need more Discipline

by @abrahamKim PATRON | 673 words | 4🔥 | 356💌

Abe

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You need more love. Self actualized love that puts the world into perspective. 

Without that perspective, without knowing what you love, you'll fall for maybe not anything -- because you've been burned and learned along the way --but you'll fall for something along the way cause there's just too much out there. It'll come in obvious forms like junk food, drugs, and all sorts of other negative emotions and behaviors. But It'll come masked as well: in the form of new interests that evaporate as soon as it began because it was never grounded into anything that was you.

You need to know yourself. Quit trying to quit things. The single thing you need to quit, is deliberate quitting. With your average life expectancy and human cognitive capacity, you're unable to maintain a valid and accurate blacklist of things to quit/avoid. Quit trying to quit eating pizza everyday. Quit trying to avoid playing video games or watching tv all the time. Quit defining yourself by the things you ought not to do. 


But also don't live by a checklist of things that you need to do. Quit trying to think you need to be an entrepreneur. Quit trying to think you need to wake up at 4 am everyday. Quit trying to think you need to write a book. 

Because a large trick we play on ourselves is the elevation trick. We are better than he who desires a Ferrari, because we desire something greater... such as the desire to travel or wake up at 4 am or write a book. But all this stuff is just mental Ferraris.


So say no to blacklists and whitelists. 

Instead, spend some time getting to know yourself and then do what you need to do. When you know yourself and love yourself you won't need to check whether you ought to eat pizza or not, you'll make the right decision (probably no most the times, yes rarely). When you know and love yourself, you won't have to spend time contemplating on whether to binge watch a show, you'll make the right decision. 

Quit trying to appear disciplined by emplying tokens of discipline and fulfillment such as forcing yourself to wake up at 4 am or writing books or starting businesses and whatever else lifehack you're trying to install onto your buggy overloaded software.

You'll demean the act of buying a Ferarri to signal how wealthy one is, but then you'll try to purchase self actualization through tokens just as well. Waking up at 4 am doesn't make you disciplined. Writing a book doesn't make you disciplined. You may appear disciplined in the short run, but you'll fall eventually.

Quit forcing yourself to do things, and instead study yourself. Learn what you love, and foster the hell out of it. This love will drive you to do things, crazy things, and avoid things, crazy things to avoid, and you'll appear disciplined to those who don't know what self love is.


All you did was write the book on garbage-ass Rollies
Ego strokin', picture postin'
Claimin' that you'd do it for motivational purposes only
But you just had to show me
See, I know, 'cause I study you closely
I know when someone lyin'
I notice people standin' for nothin' and gettin' tired
I know what we're both thinkin' even when you're quiet

Drake - Did I lose You -- More Life


A good example of this in action is Brandon Wilson not quitting bad food because of any other reason but his love for life. He wants to live and feel good and be fulfilled. Thus not eating junk and instead treating food as fuel becomes natural to him. It becomes a part of him rather than just something he does. It's true that it is something he does, but there's a difference between someone who does something and is something.


Happy Monday! If you don't know yourself, then yourself is the friend you've been neglecting too long. Quit ducking yourself. You got a lot of catching up to do. And they're excited.

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    @abrahamKim I appreciate the mention. I like your distinction between doing something and being something. A diet is something many people do for a short-term goal. Project Food As Fuel is a lifestyle and mentality shift that I want to make a part of me. 24 days without pizza. That's certainly a streak I didn't imagine having. Then again once you have one streak going...seems to make it easier to get other ones going.

    Brandon Wilson avatar Brandon Wilson | May 20, 2019 07:47:45
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      @brandonwilson

      Yes. I think streaks are created and maintained through rigor. And this rigor cannot help but be transferred. And also someone without any rigor in their life finds it impossible to just magically have rigor in other parts of their life.

      I think this is why it's nice to collaborate with people who have had many deepdives into rigor in their life. So like an athlete is a good example. It's a strength that they've at one point in their life gone all in into a sport. This will transfer to something seemingly unrelated, like business or even basket weaving. Same thing for the tech entreprenuer who's had the rigor of starting and failing and starting and failing with tech/business. This rigor will transfer to other domains such as exercise or child raising or writing a book.

      The idea of domain specificity isn't as important as people assume. Domain specificity does matter statistically, as in most people will not be able to transfer from one domain to another... but that's less of a testament to domain specificity and more of a testament to a chronic and ubiquitous lack of rigor among people.

      TLDR: People need more rigor.

      Abe avatar Abe | May 22, 2019 14:19:58
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      @abrahamKim Poor basket weaving. Always getting the bad rap as the weak end of any comparison. More rigor..now I see where your penis pump comment came from 🤣

      Brandon Wilson avatar Brandon Wilson | May 22, 2019 08:00:57
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      @brandonwilson

      Damn. Next time I will use basket weaving as the strong end of a comparison .

      Abe avatar Abe | May 22, 2019 20:42:53
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