I love to observe people and question why they do what they do.
One thing I noticed, mostly in guys actually, is that people like to pretend.
They pretend to be someone they are not. They boast about something that actually didn’t really happen that way. They exaggerate and tell stories that are an only half-truth.
Small lies here and there.
I see it in the family, among friends, and my husband’s co-workers.
Why, though? Where does this tendency come from? Why do people always try to be a little better than the person they’re talking to?
I find it super unnecessary. Is it that hard to be honest? Even if that means being a little vulnerable. And showing that you’re just a normal person with flaws just like everyone else.
I think everyone can benefit from sharing openly when something is not working out for you. Nobody has a winning streak all the time. And if someone pretends to always win, it seems fake. Sharing failures leads to greater learning.
That might be scary at first and need a little practice.
I can think of many people for whom this type of behaviour is so ingrained that they would have to make a huge conscious effort to change it. It has become part of who they are so much that they probably believe most of what they say.