Have you ever noticed that solving problems is always easier when they are not your problems but someone else's?
When a friend comes to you with a problem, and you talk it through together, you often feel that the solution is so obvious. Why don't they see it? Why don't they just act and solve it?
It even works with problems of strangers. I really felt that the other day, when I was attending a small group call as part of an online course that I'm doing. Everyone shared his/her biggest problem at the moment and we all gave our suggestions for solutions.
My own problem seems so insurmountable in my head. But everyone had an idea to overcome it, pointing out the obvious stuff that I wasn't seeing. It was extremely helpful to have someone objectively look at the situation and voice what they are seeing.
So, when you got a problem, do the following:
- Stop mulling it over in your head again and again.
- Explain it to someone out loud. (Just getting it out of your head often helps.)
- Listen to what they have to say and don't interrupt trying to explain it more and more.
- Thank them for their suggestion.