I got a mentor when I first joined toastmasters.
The first piece of advice he gave me was - Please do not preach!
I smiled to myself - I hate speeches where anyone comes of preachy so that advice make sense.
Despite that - I found myself gravitating towards preaching for my first few speeches. It was harder than I expected.
Looking at the audience, you can almost hear them pleading...
please do not tell me how to do something.
And yet - even the most experienced speakers would go up there and say -
"Meditation is the art of ....
"Happiness is found when....
"The best way to live life is....
Everyone seems to have the key to happiness.
I noticed that even with writing, it is hard for me to not be preachy.
A lot of us sound like experts based off of what we write than we actually apply in our lives.
Why is that?
What do we write more about ideas than how we actually are?
I want to be very aware of how my message sounds...
I do a "Is this too preachy?" check before I publish or speak in public.
I find storytelling and adding humor helps towards that goal.