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Aug 19, 2019 09:00:06

Speaking and writing well will change my life

by @Dandelion PATRON | 330 words | 🐣 | 99💌

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There are two things that make me feel really good in myself.

Actually, just one thing. It is when - I'm able to express my thoughts clearly to the understanding of the other party taking in the information.

It makes me feel confident. There are two mediums through that is done; either by speaking or writing.

Funny thing, I am not good at these two. It saddens me sometimes but I am most proud of my resilience to keep trying. You see, I wasn't born in an environment that helped in honing these skills. Unluckily for me the education I was exposed to didn't help me either to gain great writing and speaking skills. I am always cowering and fumbling. It is heartbreaking sometimes when I hear myself speak. I have so much to say but I tend not to say it the right way. I want to learn. I have been on this journey for about 5 years to make sure this happens. The process has been slow and it has been because I haven't been focused enough in measuring my inputs.

Now more than ever, I want to see clear progress. I want to be intentional about the steps to take to make sure I polish up my speaking and writing skills. I want to learn to articulate my thoughts clearly and not be overwhelmed easily. There is something in there and I need to let that come out. It is long overdue. 

I will lookup YouTube videos on how to speak well and practical ways to get that done. I will outline the steps and consciously work everyday.

With writing, I am kind of lost as to how to get better. This app helps but does it end here? How do I polish up? How do I learn good grammar concepts and punctuation? How do I learnt to tell a compelling story? For now, we will try YouTube and see where we get to.


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    @Dandelion Nice going! I would like to share with you my thoughts on learning how to write. Learn to pay attention to what you read. Many times we are told to read fast and read a lot, but that means nothing and gets you nothing if you don't learn to pay attention to what you read in a very particular way that trains you to become sensitive to the way language is used to convey ideas. To do that, you can select just one book by someone you consider to be a good writer, perhaps someone you admire, and study it closely. Learn to make the most of what you already have, and use simple words effectively. You may also find that reading broadly can help you get a better handle on the diversity of writing styles out there and how each particular writer expresses their own voice and perspective. This will aid you in developing your own voice -- the voice that gives you confidence to express yourself in a manner that is authentic to you. Learning good grammar comes from practice and a trained eye. I find that editing other people's work helps with develop strong grammar skills. Play the role of copyeditor and get yourself a copy of Chicago Manual of Style as a reference guide and use it to look up grammar rules you are not familiar with. The point here is not to memorize the rules at first try, but to become familiar with them through repeated exposure, i.e. every time you reference a rule you will become more familiar with it. Mark the pages you reference frequently. English grammar is a beast and getting full control of it requires patience! It is also a skill that requires constant polishing -- I often forget what I used to know 5 or so years ago. Try to look for the simple principles that underly most grammatical rules -- or keep a list of rules you use frequently, or forget often. I keep a list of things I always get wrong to remind myself to edit for those. For example, I tend to use too many commas, etc. Learning to tell a compelling story will come from writing stories that are not compelling and then reflecting on them and improving them one little bit at a time until they become compelling to you. This might require many drafts. As many as 100! But the point is to enjoy the process and play with words and ideas and how they can be brought together on a page to construct meaning. Read poetry, stories, or anything that inspires you and learn to appreciate how others play with words. Through that you will become familiar with rhetorical/literary strategies that underpin much of literary writing, contributing to its effectiveness. Most importantly, do not be hard on yourself. You are on a journey that might take 1, 5, 10, 15 or 20 years. Know that you are always moving forward no matter how slowly you progress.

    Misty avatar Misty | Aug 20, 2019 04:40:01
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      @Misty This is so thorough and I really can't thank you enough for this. Evidently, typing all these must have cost you valuable time of your day but you still did it anyway. I just downloaded the Chicago Manual of style and I am happy about it. I will keep reading this over and over again till everything sticks in my mind. I will definitely put all your suggestions into practice. Thank you once again.

       avatar | Aug 20, 2019 21:02:16
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    @Dandelion

    I feel like your writing communication is already very good. This reads smoothly and expresses your sentiment in a focused manner.

    I know what you mean about speaking though. I know a lot of people who feel like they can't be themselves one hundred percent because they are unable to use language (spoken and body) to communicate to others what they are feeling/thinking. But it is admirable for you to have undertaken this journey to practice it.

    Five years. here's to another five. Cheers :)

    Sir Abe avatar Sir Abe | Aug 19, 2019 18:14:59
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      @abrahamKim Thank you for your kind words. It means a lot.
      If nothing makes you feel good at all today, I hope the knowledge that you have given a little girl in a far away land the push to keep going will you make smile.
      May the forces be kind you.

       avatar | Aug 19, 2019 22:21:30
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    @Dandelion 1) Read a lot, 2) Spend more time editing, and 3) Practice more!!! :)

    Basile Samel avatar Basile Samel | Aug 19, 2019 13:49:54
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      @Dandelion Congrats on the 50th post!

      Basile Samel avatar Basile Samel | Aug 19, 2019 13:50:09
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      @basilesamel Thank you. I have been doing 1 and 3. About time I focus on 2 as well.

       avatar | Aug 19, 2019 22:09:07
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      @basilesamel Yay! Cheers!

       avatar | Aug 19, 2019 22:09:32
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