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Jul 09, 2019 10:26:11

Social wealth prerequisites

by @keni PATRON | 200 words | 321🔥 | 325💌

Keni

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Lately I have wondered about how difficult it is to make friends past a certain age.
Sir Abe says the secret is being admirable. I wish it were that simple.

I find some people are able to make friends very easily.
They are extremely emotionally intelligent.

Not moody.
Not rude.
Not insensitive.

Their composure is stable and predictable.
Many are funny. People gravitate around funny people.
And they are easy to trust.
That is key for me. I tend to stay away from people I don't trust.

I do not feel like I have a problem making friends. But I struggle to do what is needed to keep it going.

Is phone conversation a requirement?
Cause I fail at that with distinction.

Is proximity a requirement?
Cause being an immigrant, a lot of your friends may either move away or you were the one that moved.

Is having similar economic standing a requirement?
Cause I really don't care about that and I hate to think in those terms.

Is being the same sex a requirement?
Cause I get along with men.

Friendship in Ethiopia seems so different from friendships in America.
I am still learning the American one.

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    @keni big thing I learned in America (at least in NorCal) is that everyone is your friend. Met them on the street once and talked for 5 minutes? Friend. See them every day and chat for hours? Friend. Met them at a party 10 minutes ago? Friend.

    Friendship in America is very light and yet true deep friendship seems elusive and almost impossible. Perhaps that is because I too am an immigrant and there's a certain depth of shared experience necessary that I simply lack.

    Swizec Teller avatar Swizec Teller | Jul 09, 2019 07:43:15
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      @keni - he's right ☝🏼 I've only exchanged a few twitter messages and watched a few of his videos, and I consider @swizecteller as a friend when I talk about him to others. "I have this friend that has a bird that sits on his shoulder while he codes. Do I need a bird? A dog? A cat? A friend?"

      I don't want friends as much as I want some partners in crime.

      Brian Ball avatar Brian Ball | Jul 09, 2019 07:54:00
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      @swizecteller - :) Yes the definition of 'friend' is different. What is common among cultures is that we all need them.

      I wonder how many immigrants are on this site.

      Keni avatar Keni | Jul 10, 2019 12:24:07
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      @swizecteller @brianball - Brian - friends are the best partners in crime!! That should actually be the definition of a friend.

      Keni avatar Keni | Jul 10, 2019 12:24:43
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      @keni @swizecteller -hmmm now that I think about it -- most of the times I got into big trouble, I was with best friends. So, that must be true. Also the first people I call if I ever do get into trouble.

      Brian Ball avatar Brian Ball | Jul 10, 2019 09:37:13
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