Last week I wrote a pretty simple post asking three questions. It's wasn't really made to help you be a better human or increase productivity or "hack" your way to success... Actually, I saw this as an opportunity to reflect and understand my own personal well being and to share this process with others.
I like to think of it as a prompt to get started when I need to reassess my life. The answers to these questions are going to be different every six months or so, and so that's where you get the chance to reflect. You can see what's working as well as re-calibrate what's not. Hopefully this helps ...? Anyway, here are my answers to the Three Simple Questions:
Whats Great in your life right now?
I'm so blessed being able to travel across the US this year. It's such an amazing country and I've met some great people, seen so many beautiful landscapes and been rock climbing and hiking in some epic places. My wife and I still have to pinch ourselves from time to time, for this is just too much of a good thing and such a sensory overload.
Another thing that is really great is the fact that I can work and travel as well as save money. This was unheard of to me two years ago but now it's a reality. Again, I need to pinch myself and be grateful for this opportunity to live work and play, all at once.
What are you missing in your life?
At present I'm grateful for a lot, as mentioned above, however there's one thing that I wish was better: my knee. Last year I had a knee reconstruction from a rock climbing fall. I completely underestimated how much needed to be done and how hard the recovery would be.
What's missing is my ability to freely do what I want with my body. I want to get back to running, sprinting, surfing, climbing and playing in the park. I've really got to double down on my rehab and book in more physio, chiropractor and personal training sessions and just do the work. It's expensive, but far greater than the cost of constant back pain, knee pain, weak joints and muscles.
Another thing I'm missing are more deep connections with friends. This is the year of 30th's in my social circle, and now that I'm abroad I am missing out on a lot of great catch up's with old friends. However, it's not just that.
I feel like I am missing more meaningful friendships and conversations across the board. I have a couple close friends who I chat to regularly and share everything with but that's about it. I'd love to stay in touch with more old friends, but every time I try to organise a call life just get in the way. Everyone's busy chasing their own dreams, myself included, that it's hard to keep in touch and maintain friendships.
What's preventing you from winning / succeeding?
Success right now comes down to freedom, happiness and the ability to be content in a variety of situations. Happiness comes from peacefulness and that is something that needs to be worked on. Comparison is the thief of joy because it belittles your own accomplishments. It's something I try hard not to do but still struggle with all the time. For me success comes with:
- Leveraging my time towards higher earning jobs and outsourcing smaller tasks that are not worth my hourly rate. I only have around 40 hours a week as a freelancer who is constantly travelling. In all honesty, that usually looks like 25 in a normal week. I have multiple clients on varying contracts. The newer contracts are worth more than my legacy contracts. It's hard to end long term relationships with good clients, however something's gotta give if I want to maximize my time and income. Real success to me comes with automating tasks and building a business that can generate income with nothing but my laptop. I've got a long way to go to get there ... But one day, that would be the dream.
- Having little or no "good" business ideas or "solutions" to problems. I'm a developer and have the skills to build something ... I just have nooooooooo idea what that is. This is a huge pain point for me and something I think about constantly. Heck, it's the reason I got into web development in the first place! I wish I could have this figured out but it's incredibly difficult to know what to do. Sure, I listen to podcasts, read blogs, build demo apps, and mess around with code. But nothing seems to "stick" enough to want to pursue it wholeheartedly.
- Being content with my life choices and not second guessing everything. I know my life is going against the grain of society. On some days I'm incredibly happy because I'm free. On others I'm deeply confused because I don't have kids or a house or a car and debt. Should I have those things? Am I not complete without having kids and a house? How can I just turn off this constant chatter and be content with my life choices?
I sure do have a lot more I could say on this topic, and maybe I'll expand upon this in the future. Anyway, I'd love to hear your thoughts and answers to these questions. Please feel free to share yours 😀.