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Apr 10, 2019 16:00:34

Re: Community

by @abrahamKim | 508 words | 3🔥 | 256💌

Sir Abe

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Features or even dis-features that I think foster this community aspect of 200WAD:

A lot of my friends in high school once they got enlightened and became atheist or agnostic, started quipping at the fact that a christian might tell them, i'll be praying for you. They found that offensive. But we were 17 years old and drinking the delicious nectar of figuring it out in spite of all the suckers around us. So I agreed and said, yeah fuck those idiots!

A little later, maybe just a month? -- yeah teenagers change fast -- I thought differently. A christian praying for you doesn't mean they are implying that you must believe in God or whatever my friends had qualms with. It rather is a token. A token representing that they are using their energy to think about you and to wish you well. It's not about the prayer.... it's not about the token, it's about what it means.

Nowadays if you're like the average person, it's hard to forget someone's birthday. Your Facebook will remind you. But before this feature, remembering someone's birthday meant something. It was a token representing the care and time someone had spent on you. But now with such a friction-less feature, remembering someone's birthday really doesn't mean anything anymore. Forgetting still does mean bad stuff though haha.

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Tech is all about removing friction. And sometimes it removes it in a way that satisfies us at the expense of fulfillment. The most popular websites make it uber easy to share things with each other. To embed things in sharing. Blah blah blah. Such features make people more likely to share, similar to how being surrounded by fast food restaurants will make one more likely to have a shitty diet.

On 200WAD, there is no sharing feature. You need to copy and paste a link. And your notifications disappear after you mark them as read. There is some friction here in the social aspect. And because of this friction this place feels less like a canned video game or generic movie script, but more an open world. And also because of this, any sort of social interaction, whether short-term or long-term, still feels real, still gives us fulfillment.

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While moving a couch you ask someone walking by nicely if they can help you, they might say yes if they're not busy and then they'll feel good for having helped you. If you offered that same person minimum wage to help you move it, they'll probably decline.

On 200WAD, every social interaction feels more like the former because of it's lack of sharing/techy features. It gives us the benefit of intelligence. That we will figure out how to connect with each other instead of treating us like imbeciles and nudging us to do 100 million things to show the other person we care. 

On this site, unlike others, simple tokens of gratitude and intimacy such as a comment or a link-share, feel like they have value.


Welcome back, Gabriel! 

BTW, what made you leave in the first place?

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    @abrahamKim Yeah, I'm with you on this. The limited features make it feel more authentic, more like a real community -and it is, even if it's online.

    Why did I leave? Mostly because I started to feel I cared more about the streak than about the writing, which I didn't appreciate for a number of reasons but particularly because the rebellious spirit within doesn't like to feel subjugated to any one thing. So I said "screw it, i'll take a break, who cares."
    Thought it wouldn't last as long as it did but...I'm good to go again.

    Gabriel Greco avatar Gabriel Greco | Apr 11, 2019 12:34:07
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      @gabrielgreco

      I figured that was your reason. And I had figured also -- wrongly -- that you would be back after like a week. But then like two weeks passed then three and i thought you were gone forever actually.

      I also fear breaking the streak. And when I notice it fucking with my writing and head I just break it lol.

      Sir Abe avatar Sir Abe | Apr 12, 2019 14:18:11
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      @abrahamKim @gabrielgreco I'm going to pretend I didn't read that. :)

      Brandon Wilson avatar Brandon Wilson | Apr 12, 2019 06:44:13
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      @abrahamKim @brandonwilson lol, watch out, I may just do it again ;)

      Gabriel Greco avatar Gabriel Greco | Apr 13, 2019 00:09:25
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    @abrahamKim "On this site, unlike others, simple tokens of gratitude and intimacy such as a comment or a link-share, feel like they have value." - LOVE this. Made me think that the (un)intentional friction here is perhaps worth keeping. Very wabi-sabi.

    Jason Leow avatar Jason Leow | Apr 11, 2019 14:57:13
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      @jasonleow

      I know right! This is also not me saying that the website shouldn't remove other frictions, I'm just saying right now, maybe a little by design and a little by resource limitations, the site is at a very pleasant state of friction of the right amount in the right places.

      Sir Abe avatar Sir Abe | Apr 12, 2019 14:17:21
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    @abrahamKim - that being said, my birthday is Dec. 16th ;-)

    Brian Ball avatar Brian Ball | Apr 10, 2019 08:38:48
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      @brianball

      Haha if we are stlll here by the next Dec 16th, I shall remember. I promise.

      Sir Abe avatar Sir Abe | Apr 12, 2019 14:12:24
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      @abrahamKim - when is yours?

      Brian Ball avatar Brian Ball | Apr 12, 2019 08:35:56
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      @brianball

      It's coming up soon! May 17

      Sir Abe avatar Sir Abe | Apr 12, 2019 18:42:08
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    @abrahamKim Well said. I wonder what an atheist's equivalent of "I will pray for you" is? Perhaps thinking about another person's problem and then offering a practical, rooted-in-science solution?

    Brandon Wilson avatar Brandon Wilson | Apr 10, 2019 07:56:22
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      @brandonwilson

      Unlike Christians or other people who follow a framework of beliefs atheists don't share such a doctrine, so I think it will be highly individual. For me, it is literally just me caring about someone and taking action on the care.

      Sir Abe avatar Sir Abe | Apr 12, 2019 14:13:17
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    @abrahamKim - Beautiful Mr Abraham. You have a way with words. Particularly when you are being very open. Feels like that open letter post.
    Keep writing!

    Keni avatar Keni | Apr 10, 2019 10:14:25
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      @abrahamKim @keni He has ways with words, not just with words but with illustrations that makes you wanna get to the end of the post

      Seun Oyebode avatar Seun Oyebode | Apr 10, 2019 16:06:53
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      @keni @seunoyebode

      Thank you both for the compliments. But compliments are bad for my character so this will be the last time I respond to compliments. I don't want you to think that I dislike them, it's just that I know they are bad for me! So long complimenter Keni and Seun!!!

      Sir Abe avatar Sir Abe | Apr 12, 2019 14:14:07
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      @seunoyebode @abrahamKim - Mr Abe - Compliments are bad for my character???
      This needs a post to explain what you mean. If you don't, I will shower you with non-stop compliments!

      Keni avatar Keni | Apr 15, 2019 13:26:18
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