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by @keni PATRON | 200 words | 314🔥 | 318💌


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When I was a kid, I was convinced that I could easily persuade people. So much so that I declared that I was going to become a lawyer. My fascination with articulate communication was triggered early. 

Like most skills, I believed that I would be getting better with time and practice. 

But lately, I have started to question my ability to persuade. More than my persuasion, I think it is my patience that seems to be getting shorter than before. The urge to break things down and hunt for a good example to make my point is reducing. 

For instance - when the topic of free or better healthcare is brought up, I find myself wondering, should I bother to make my point? Does this human being really not understand how vital healthcare is? That thought makes me refrain from trying to persuade. 

Or maybe I am just noticing that the circle or age group of people I am around - is of people who are as passionate and stubborn as I am. 

It is just getting harder for me to be able to convince people to change their mind about anything. 

Or maybe it is me. I am getting rigid too. 

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    @keni Haha... It's you, it's everybody. LOOL

    Seun Oyebode avatar Seun Oyebode | Apr 26, 2019 13:33:45
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      @seunoyebode - Thank you Seun. I am as useless as everybody. Now I don't feel too bad.

      Keni avatar Keni | Apr 26, 2019 12:25:32
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    Haha the great thing about this is that you spend the majority of the post pondering whether persuading such c alcified gargoyles is worth it... but then at the end you're like .... wait... i'm them, because with a person so fixated on persuading others, their fixation is the evidence for stubbornness -- as you pointed out -- itself.

    Basically a megaphone trying to figure out how to scream is probably lacking microphones and will never convince another megaphone.

    Also, I find it hilarious the ubiquity of how many people are upset about others' stubbornness yet they can't remember the last time they've made a ideological pivot. This is not the simple small cut persuasion but like literally changing life viewpoints so much that it had pained them to even be open to the idea of transforming in such a way.

    Honestly there's a reason why it's hard to persuade. And it's because its very fucking hard to be persuaded -- in a big life-view way -- not convenient this affirms my existing beliefs type of way -- and if one cannot be persuaded, one cannot persuade.

    Think of the best security programmers. They are for the most part great hackers who know how to find vulnerabilities and have been hacked themselves as well.

    Basically I find the key to persuasion to be the ability to be persuaded.

    If someone is a slave to short-term persuasions like junk food, drugs, and mindless sensory stimulations -- this includes bad tv -- then they will not be able to persuade simply out of the fact that the only persuasions they have experience with are trivial ones.

    So to persuade, be persuaded.

    To be persuaded, be prepared to go back on things you've staked out as truths in the past. But not in a regressive way to make life 'easier' but in a ----------------------------------------------------------------------

    Abe avatar Abe | Apr 26, 2019 14:17:47
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      @keni @abrahamKim TL:DR please Abe? Or I should give it a third read? ;)

      Seun Oyebode avatar Seun Oyebode | Apr 26, 2019 13:29:56
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      @keni @seunoyebode

      haha TLDR:

      to persuade, be persuaded.

      Abe avatar Abe | Apr 26, 2019 14:35:50
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      @keni @abrahamKim @seunoyebode I have found that a person's mindset has a lot to do with how easily they can be persuaded. Rather than try to persuade people on specific issues, I have been playing the long game focusing on helping to change their mindset so that they will eventually come around to the original points I wanted to make.

      Brandon Wilson avatar Brandon Wilson | Apr 26, 2019 08:27:15
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      @abrahamKim - This is a nice long comment with good deep points. Could have been a complete post due to the depth of content.
      It's true. I am hard to persuade. There are very few people in my life right now that can make me change my mind about something...and that is because I love and respect them... so much so that I actually listen with an open mind when they talk to me. I realize I don't do that with everyone. I haven't even identified being persuaded as something to work on. :) .
      Nicely done Sir Abe.

      Keni avatar Keni | Apr 26, 2019 12:24:50
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      @brandonwilson - That seems difficult to do. But worth the try.

      Keni avatar Keni | Apr 26, 2019 12:26:04
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    @keni I found the intro hilarious! Great hook

    Basile Samel avatar Basile Samel | Apr 26, 2019 14:12:46
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      @basilesamel - Thank you Basile. Noted so I can "HOOK" every time :)

      Keni avatar Keni | Apr 26, 2019 12:20:19
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