Now, here are the first three out of six steps to achieve your goals.
Step #1: Decide what is worth pursuing
Our lives are already so full. We have our full-time jobs, families, book clubs, little leagues, Friday nights out, hairdresser appointments, you name it. There are basically endless possibilities of what you can do with your life. It’s hard to decide what is really worth pursuing. Sure, certain things are important for everybody, like eating healthy. But your career, your hobbies, how you spend your free time, are entirely up to you.
At some point, you have to make a decision. Consider these questions:
• What is it that creates a longing in you?
• What do you keep coming back to?
• What do you want to be remembered for?
• What can you see yourself doing over and over and over again?
Think about it well. But don’t hesitate forever and stay inactive because you can’t decide. You can keep playing the victim and let life happen to you. Or you can decide for yourself what you want to do.
Step #2: Commit to your goal
Once you identified your goal, you have to really, and I mean really, commit to it. An “Ok, I’ll try this out.” is not enough. We say all the time that something is important to us, like “I really want to catch up with this one friend of mine.” If we don’t make it a priority, it’s actually not that important. Let’s not fall back on the old “I don’t have time for this” excuse. If something is THIS important, you MAKE time for it.
In fact, not only make it your priority but make it your identity. Make it a part of you.
• “I am the kind of person who never misses a workout.”
• "I am an entrepreneur”
• “I am the kind of manager who always has an open door for her team"
Once something becomes your identity, you will do everything to protect it and to live up to it.
Step #3: Develop a system
Here is where it gets a little counterintuitive. When you develop a plan on how to achieve your goal, don’t focus on the goal itself, but the exact actions that will get you there. Compare these two intentions:
“I want to lose 2 pounds this week”
“I will work out on Monday, Wednesday and Friday at 4 pm at Gold’s gym together with my friend Suzie“.
The first is not actionable while the second one absolutely is. Define exactly how and when you will work on your goal. The good thing about having a system is that you don’t have to wait for motivation to strike. You just follow your plan no matter what. You are not deciding moment by moment anymore.