When I think of cognitive dissonance I think of a few things.
Holding two competing ideas in my head simultaneously, either comfortably or (usually) uncomfortably.
My actions not conforming to my thoughts or values.
I do feel like my tolerance for cognitive dissonance has increased as I've aged. It is probably just from exposure and practice. But most of the time it is difficult to experience cognitive dissonance and I think that is true for most people. Let's practice.
People are inherently good but do terrible things.
People are inherently terrible but do good things.
I love you even though we value completely different things.
I hate you even though we value mostly the same things.
There exists a numinous presence that is benevolent, omniscient, and cares for us, but will allow us to commit genocide, abuse, and many terrible acts of hatred.
A person can be simultaneously deeply connected to that numinous presence and still perform those terrible acts of hatred.
The morally correct thing to do is speak out against someone who is right.
The morally correct thing to do is not to speak out against someone who is wrong.
There is no clear correct action to take but taking action is the correct thing to do.
There is clearly a correct action to take but not taking action is the correct thing to do.