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Jun 02, 2019 17:59:08

Mitigation for Expected Quarrels

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For the first few months, a mother would be too busy to realize she is tired. But 2 or 3 months later, she is facing with another phase that she feels some tasks as routines, and realizes cumulated fatigues due to consistent lack of sleep.

That is what I am reading from other blogs and articles. Some said there were more and more arguments and heated quarrel between parents due to such tiredness. Luckily, we did not have it yet. To mitigate such a quarrels in the next phase, what could I do for her?

Make her own time

First of all, let her have her own time without a baby. Then, she can do whatever she wants. It would be also good idea for her to sleep alone withtout disturbance. As much as I can, I tried to offer such a time to her. I will keep it mind and doing it more especially in this phase.

Set lower priority for changing a diaper and chore jobs

It is okay not to change diapers whenever it is dirty so that our burden is not so much. It is okay not to clean rooms or landry at all if she does not feel like. I never asked her to do chore jobs and am in charge of cooking but she sometimes feel some responsibility by herself. So it would be good to highlight she does not have to do.

Less time to use smartphones

It is tricky to tell her to do so from me. But looking at a smartphone is actually bad for her sleep. Such blight display light wakes her up.

Mentally prepared and accept

Last but not least, I need to be ready to be aggresively scolded or spoken badly without reasons. I need to accept such a moment and not fight back… endure..

Writing this would be helpful for me to prepare actually.

Any tips would be appreciated from those who already experienced.

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    @hiro omg... it's so beautiful what you wrote! And full of understanding. love and wisdom <3
    I read once, that when baby is... a baby, mother's natural role is to take care of him/her, and fathers role is to take care of the mother... she is exhausted, has no resources left, emotionally as well, full of doubts and anxieties... You are wonderful!

    Lucjah avatar Lucjah | Jun 03, 2019 08:48:29
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      @lucjah thank you for your encouragement, Lucjah ;)

      Hiro avatar Hiro | Jun 05, 2019 04:28:43
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