Jan 02, 2019 18:03:03 @alexmicu
"you need someone with whom you can just be yourself"
Is it possible to still be making friends in your 30's? I believe so. It is harder? Absolutely. It's especially hard for someone like me, who is quite good at reading people and discovering that very few people out there fit the bill. I think I can tell if someone is worth my time in the first 15 minutes of meeting them. And many people do not, unfortunately.
When you're younger the bar is quite quite low as you require less, more superficial things from your friendships: laughter, companion and possibly the same tastes in music. When you are older these things become more complex and there are added layers. A common liking of Arctic Monkeys' last album does not quite cut it anymore. You want support, you want a good listener and more importantly someone who can give you good advice and be there for you when you need it the most.
Basically, the older we get, the pickier we are. And that applies to friendships and romantic relationships. One thing I've noticed is that most people still have their old friends in their lives because you need someone who knows you well, you need that comfort and warmth. You need to be able to try less to impress and you need someone with whom you can just be yourself.