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Jan 29, 2019 13:50:10

Just the two of us.

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Shiro Therapy.

That was what we called it. 

Thursday nights at a small restaurant in downtown, me and my friend would meet. We would order a dish called Shiro and catch up. 

There was something nice about the consistency of the day, the place and the meal that made it work.

Just the two of us.

I have another friend I meet twice a year. For our birthdays. And catch up about the rest of the year. Doing that for almost 20 years.

Then there is a certified crazy one but we have deep therapy sessions as well. She and I have known each other since college. We recently got back to meeting more regularly. She would remember conversations from years ago and we would spend hours laughing - often irritating people around us.

I love these engaging conversations. But I get it with just two people.

It is honest, deep and vulnerable. My kind of conversation. 

Even one more person and the conversation becomes about sounding funny or cool. And I shut down. 

Is it an an introvert thing?
Or is this a therapy thing?

Can more than two people really have a good conversation?






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  • 1

    @keni beautifully on spot, thank you.

    PhilH avatar PhilH | Feb 06, 2019 00:07:16
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      @philh - Thank you Phil. :)

      Keni avatar Keni | Feb 06, 2019 18:02:55
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    @keni great piece and very well written. I often times find myself as an extroverted introvert but still keep the idea that smaller circles of friends are always better. I think 3 is the max number as well

    Antonio Gary Jr. avatar Antonio Gary Jr. | Jan 29, 2019 16:33:54
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      @antoniogaryjr. Thank you Antonio.
      I am the same way... extrovert when it comes to music and dancing but introvert everywhere else.

      Keni avatar Keni | Jan 29, 2019 18:21:57
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    @keni

    I totally understand the unscalability of deep intimate conversations.

    I feel like 3 is the max for me. When it gets to four, then I gravitate towards preferring two one on one conversations rather than one that consists of four persons.

    At three, I've still managed great, intimate conversations.

    Sir Abe avatar Sir Abe | Jan 29, 2019 22:30:02
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      @abrahamKim - I struggle even with 3. Such a big difference between 2 and 3. If it is 4, I start looking at my watch and brainstorming which excuse to use to get away. I must be an ultra introvert.

      Keni avatar Keni | Jan 29, 2019 18:21:02
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      @keni

      I am not an introvert but I have also felt this 'wanting to get away' sentiment. I usually feel this way when I am in a conversation or social setting where I feel like I lack control -- not able to dictate what we talk about or do.

      I think maybe ultra introverts such as yourself have a lower tolerance for this loss of social control.

      Sir Abe avatar Sir Abe | Jan 31, 2019 02:35:43
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    @keni my introvert senses are tingling. I get this a lot too.

    Rasmus Rygh avatar Rasmus Rygh | Jan 29, 2019 20:41:58
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      @rasmusrygh - Introvert senses tingling...NICE. So I am not alone. :)

      Keni avatar Keni | Jan 29, 2019 18:19:54
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