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Jul 07, 2019 21:09:18

Is there any fun at the middle age?

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"Is there any fun at the middle age?" One day, I asked this question to one of my most respected teachers.

"None."

"So you would be an unhappy father in the future?"

"No, never."

"So how to a happy middle-aged?"

"... I don't know yet."


I think there is no peak time in one's life because there are no deadlines to be happier and better in the future, except death.

Within 2 months, I'll reach 25 which means in the rest of my life, there would be only one judgment left for most people around me: any female under 25 is better than me for no reason, any female above 25 is better than me for a better marriage or a younger appearance.


Aging is unreversed, but no one has taught me how to aspire aging other than being numb no matter 25 or 52.

When I look around, there is no happy person, no happy couple, no happy student, no happy teacher, no happy parent, no happy worker, ... 

"Happy" is not in their choices of the day.


I'm not sure whether I am a late bloomer, but I'm the kind of people "no hurry, no pause". 

It's okay that in the past 24 years I failed to be an early bloomer, but I have never failed myself.

  


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    Abe avatar Abe | Jul 07, 2019 15:57:24
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    @5plus6 I'm definitely happier at 40 than when I was 25. I hope you find a way too to be happy in middle age

    Jason Leow avatar Jason Leow | Jul 07, 2019 21:45:27
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      @5plus6 oh yes!!!
      and then @jasonleow , I am so much happier being.. OMG... 55 :-/ than I was being 40 hahaha
      I actually read somewhere that the older you get, the happier you are :-)
      maybe it's just that your expectations shrink and little things make you happy

      Lucjah avatar Lucjah | Jul 07, 2019 17:48:43
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      @jasonleow and @lucjah Happy for both of you said "YES" without hesitation to my question. I think 200WAD community has made a contribution to your happiness.

      I have read a similar discussion on Reddit before, there are many shared life experiences of being happier after 25. But I didn't get touched because they are a group of people online, though very kind but too far away from my life.
      However, your replies did touch me. After so many posts on 200 WAD, not like strangers meeting online, meeting every day here is another form of familiarity and trust.

      Plus, why so many people online happier than people I met offline? Because a certain online community filter people share common values? or because online sharing is only part of the truth?

      5plus6 avatar 5plus6 | Jul 08, 2019 20:26:16
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      @5plus6 @lucjah cool! there's hope for us yet! :)

      Jason Leow avatar Jason Leow | Jul 08, 2019 20:28:45
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      @jasonleow :-)

      Lucjah avatar Lucjah | Jul 08, 2019 14:51:58
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      @5plus6 @jasonleow I do think we are like-minded here, at 200WaD, I think the very goal to write every day is really special, yet we are realistic and accept the "small" (LOL... so often not small at all) challenge, then... we are in huge percentage willing to share our lives, our ups and downs (even if only the ones we go thru here)... I think these filters are pretty specific and make this community special.
      I believe we share a lot of pretty deep stuff, it depends on the personality of course, but you can find here joy and sadness, excitement and boredom... I think we are pretty genuine <3

      Lucjah avatar Lucjah | Jul 08, 2019 14:56:41
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      @5plus6 @lucjah wow Lucjah well said! Such a nice and succinct way to describe the community :)

      Jason Leow avatar Jason Leow | Jul 08, 2019 21:46:20
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      @jasonleow @lucjah Love your words! I read it aloud twice.

      I'll get my 100th streaks soon, and you have said what I feel about the community.

      Plus, I still remember my first comment is from @lucjah. Actually, it's six at the same time. No one has left feedback for me before, and I received 6 at one time which made me screaming for hours in joy! My friends thought I'm mad, hahaha

      Again, thank you sincerely.

      5plus6 avatar 5plus6 | Jul 08, 2019 21:55:32
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