Imagine you're talking to your best friend. She is telling you about a presentation she's about to give at her office and how nervous she is. Finally, she says "I'm just not good at public speaking." How do you respond?
Most of us will immediately find encouraging words. We automatically reason that nothing should hold you back from accomplishing what you set out to do. When talking to others, we easily see that's true.
But, what about ourselves? How often have you told yourself some variation of "I'm always late.", "I'm so impatient.", or "I constantly procrastinate" and blindly accepted it as true?
Certainly, our genetics have not condemned us to be bad listeners or impatient for the rest of our lives. Where do those believes come from? Often, personal stereotypes have been repeated for years, reinforced by friends and family. As a result, we set low expectations for ourselves in certain areas and produce a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Next time you hear yourself say "I'm just not good at ...", ask why not. You can achieve almost anything if you just believe you can. Just let go of the old stories that are holding you back.