In Sam Altman’s new blog post about how to be successful, his #2 point is: Have almost too much self-belief
I notice that those who are already successful/admirable possess the privilege of being able to exhibit certain attributes that are shamed when observed in the rest of us. Possessing a self-belief nearing the point of delusion, as Altman described, is something we’d applaud and even attribute as necessary to one’s success when that person has already made it, but when an ordinary person exhibits such we'll quickly shoot them down and remind them to know their place.
I find this limiting and stifling to self development, thus ultimately social mobility. To transcend one’s current position, who they are in our concrete reality, one must begin somewhere. For us sentient humans where it all must begins is the mental. The cognitive. So to cease being who you are presently, to transform into what you envision yourself as or desire to be, the change required must first manifest in your mind. But as soon as you do it you might have family members and friends who say, that's not you. You're a phoney. Why you trying to be like XXX YYYY?
We greatly leave social mobility to the sweaty palms of chance rather than the dexterous grip of merit by this insidious shaming of the most necessary tool for an individual's progress. We ( really ^ 999 ) need to ponder our knee-jerk perception to the greatest tool possible for progress: the mindset of the admirable.
I use the word ‘admirable’ rather than successful, winner, or anything else because of the marriage like association between the latter with the idea of money.
Admirable feels a more general descriptor and valid filter for defining he/she whom is alluring for a given subjective person.
So next time someone seems to be acting or thinking outside of their income bracket, or their current position in life (whatever the metric), catch yourself before you start reminding them of their delusion. Because if you do, you might actually allow them to kill the delusion. Not by them coming to their senses, but by them actually changing their reality.
If you liked this post then try not [ insert your thing here ]* .
*drinking a dozen beers tonight.
*watching Netflix mindlessly
*watching something on Netflix simply because someone told you it was good
*hanging out with someone who doesn't need/want you in their life, but simply is using you to fill in their void.
*feeling sorry for yourself.