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Jun 23, 2019 02:18:32

Disney Love

by @abrahamKim PATRON | 208 words | 4🔥 | 356💌

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I am truly convinced now that my gf does not believe in Disney Love. In fact, she finds it lame and naive. This used to make me sad, because I so wanted to share the same type of love. But these days I've come to truly understand and feel that she doesn't believe or value the standard type of love, which I like to define as Disney Love. 

Ironically, before when I was all sad about this situation was when I didn't understand her, or at least disagreed with her. It's only now that I finally understand her viewpoint that I feel nothing negative about this. Now that I know that she doesn't believe in Disney Love... now that I can feel it, it no longer matters to me that she doesn't have Disney Love for me while at the same time I still feel 100% satisfied giving that kind of love to her.

It's one of the maturing things I've come to conquer lately. This ability to let go of this notion that a love between two people must be the same -- not just in magnitude but also in type. These days I'm living with the same blind Disney Love I grew up on. And I love it! 

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    @abrahamKim - I sooooo like your gf. I am the exact same way. I think all the fairy tales should be burnt and children shouldn't be exposed to any of the nonsense love stories in there. This is particularly necessary for females because we are raised to look for the knight. We are more vulnerable to media so reality becomes difficult to adjust to.

    I always say companionship trumps Disney love all day any day. The book - Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt covers this in details.

    This graph says it all - https://4.bp.blogspot.com/_qXGN_D4-2Y0/TIGEzHGU4JI/AAAAAAAAAfE/YdoN4UwyDbE/s400/CCI09032010_00004.jpg

    Keni avatar Keni | Jun 22, 2019 20:54:18
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      @keni

      haha I used to complain -- not very long ago -- that the media made me as a guy want to be a lazy dumb sloth boyfriend. So it's not my fault because the media brainwashed me.

      I really really really don't want to lose my intensity though. I just got an email from Gabriel how he mentions how he can tell that I am younger than him.

      "I don't know how old you are, but it does seem like you're younger than I am. There is an eagerness and hunger in your writing and manner of expression that tends to dull with time. "

      This is inline with that graph. Are you feeling as though you are in-line with that graph?

      Abe avatar Abe | Jun 23, 2019 23:58:48
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      @abrahamKim - I try hard to be inline with the graph. It find that it takes more work to keep the intensity and attachment going for a long time. I call the intensity in the beginning of any new venture a temporary high. It would be hard - if not impossible to keep any intensity high without getting exhausted.
      I think having passion and intensity is a privilege and an advantage - but its a limited resource so use it sparingly for the few things in life that deserve it. (No I am not sure what qualifies for that definition - still exploring myself. )

      Keni avatar Keni | Jun 24, 2019 19:01:48
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