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Jul 17, 2019 15:17:03

Ask for his choices, observe his systems

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How to know someone quickly? Ask for his choices.

In a macro level, you couldn't see the real differences (in a short time).
Ordinary people share common values in healthy, honesty, discipline, ... 
So don't ask for his goals, they mean nothing.

Losers have golas, winners have systems.
You have to judge him by his systems, his patterns of how to make choices.
Only then, how he works for these choices matters.

They should be HARD rather than just REALISTIC.
For examples, the famous 36 questions to fall in love with anyone in 45 minutes, most of them are IMAGINARY choices:
  • Given the choice of anyone in the world, who would you want as a dinner guest?
  • If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be?
  • What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
  • ...
Also, Tim's β€œrapid-fire questions” in 2 to 5 minutes:
  • What is the book (or books) you’ve given most as a gift?
  • What topic would you speak about if you were asked to give a TED talk on something outside of your main area of expertise?
  • Do you have a quote you live your life by or think of often?
  • ...

Ask questions about his choices, and observe his systems.
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    @5plus6 - another way would be to look at the results. Is he getting any. Good results could be luck, but are often rooted in family or systems ( as you mention ).

    Brian Ball avatar Brian Ball | Jul 17, 2019 06:56:48
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      @brianball
      Family is the most complex and powerful system in the world.
      Flipped is one of my favorite movies. Beyond the love story between the boy and the girl, it shows the differences between two family systems, and how did it work on the next generation.

      How to build a personal system independent of the family? Especially there are negative factors.

      5plus6 avatar 5plus6 | Jul 23, 2019 21:30:22
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